Peyton Lambton first rose to fame on The Bachelor but, these days, the Tennessee native is much more likely to be found cozying up to newborn daughter Lyla James than she is a new man. Lambton – who wed The Bachelorette alum Chris Lambton in 2012 – can attest to the many challenges of being a working mom. But she's also the first to admit that starring opposite hubby Chris on the hit series Going Yard has, without a doubt, evolved into a family affair.
We recently sat down to chat with the reality TV star to talk about finding that elusive work-life balance, DIY decorating tips for busy moms, and the biggest challenge she'll face when Going Yard returns to HGTV.
Congratulations on your new baby! How has becoming a mom changed the way you view the world?
My eyes are now opened to what's going on around me in a way I never imagined. I have already started to worry about the future and what kind of world we live in. I grew up in a neighborhood where we came home when the street lights turned on. That isn't the world we live in now, and it makes me nervous about what this world will become over the next 20 years and beyond. I want Lyla to have a childhood full of wonderful memories just as I do, but I am not sure I will allow her to roam as much as I was able to when I was younger.
What's the biggest challenge you face juggling work and family?
I can't seem to find enough hours in the day to do everything I want! The feeling of constantly being pulled in various directions is a huge challenge. I want to work, which requires that I find someone to care for Lyla. Then I feel guilty for working and not spending all of my time with her. I'm still new at this, but I know that eventually we can find a groove and balance.
You and your husband work together. Do you ever bring your daughter to set?
I have not taken her to set, but we are planning to begin shooting videos for Wayfair at our home in March. That will be her big screen debut!
Will we ever see her on Going Yard?
I am still up in the air about putting her on camera. We have shared photos of her on social media and I always wonder if that's the right decision. This goes back to the question about the way I look at the world. There are some scary people out there, so I am hesitant to put too much of my daughter in the public eye. I hate that we even have to think that way, but it’s reality.
You mentioned mom guilt earlier, but they say it takes a village to raise a child. Have you had success delegating childcare?
I am lucky to still be on maternity leave. The winter is a slow time for us, so the timing worked out in my favor. My parents were here to help for a few weeks before and after I gave birth. That was a huge help! I really don't know what I would have done without them. Chris had to leave for a shoot a couple of weeks after she arrived, and I don't know if I would have survived alone. We are starting to think about childcare, but we haven't fully decided what we want to do.
You obviously have a great eye for design. How has your sense of style changed since becoming a mom?
I have always been a minimalist and organization is very important to me. I like for all items to have a place within the home. That has all gone out the window since bringing Lyla home. We have more gear for her around the house than we will ever need, and I have definitely loosened the reins with putting things away. Our home is definitely more lived in and I love it. We have a wonderful backyard with plenty of grass and space to run. I can't wait to watch her explore and discover nature right here at home. I'm sure one day we will add a swing set or something to keep her entertained, but for now she can enjoy the grass and trees.
Any great DIY tips for moms who want a beautiful home but aren't sure how to make it kid-friendly?
While our home feels more lived-in now with kid stuff everywhere, I still like to keep it all organized so it isn't complete chaos. Choosing smart pieces of furniture that can provide hidden storage is key. Baskets and drawers for a last-minute clean up are so helpful when guests show up and you need to tidy up quickly. This also keeps the kid stuff from getting crammed in a closet.
You've shared a lot about your fertility struggles on your blog. Looking back, how do you think going through the uncertainty of IVF made you stronger?
At each road block that we faced while trying to conceive, I thought I couldn't take anymore. The heartache of wanting something that should be so natural was overwhelming. Looking back, I know that I am so much stronger because of what we went through. The journey was a difficult one, but I honestly don't remember any of the bad times anymore because I have this perfect little girl that was so worth the wait.
Speaking of your little girl, what's your favorite way to spend time with your family?
Chris loves to cook and we usually have music playing in the kitchen. He has gotten in the habit of playing reggae and Lyla seems to love it. She will kick her legs in her chair or we will dance together while he cooks. This seems to make her happy, so I imagine lots of dance parties in our future!
What do you do to unwind on especially hectic days?
We are lucky to live down the street from the ocean, so I love talking a walk with the family on the beach. The summer is great, but I really prefer the off season when it's empty and the dog can run while we walk.
How do you think working makes you a better mom?
For me, I need a way to be challenged and creative outside of the home. I want to show my daughter that she can be a strong, independent woman who can do it all if that's what she chooses. I have many friends who are stay-at-home moms and I look up to them and give them so much credit. Being a full-time mom is the hardest job there is. I am lucky that I don't have to go to an office from 9 to 5 every day and I can be more flexible with my schedule. I look forward to my time at work and the exciting projects I am working on, but then I really look forward to coming home to my family!
What's one piece of advice you wish you could give every new working mom?
You don't have to do it all and it's okay to ask for help. As a new mom, I have often felt like I have to do everything myself. My husband is quickly teaching me that all I have to do is ask for help and tell him what I need to take some pressure and stress off my plate.
How would you sum up your personal philosophy for life?
This too shall pass. Right now, I am in the trenches of being exhausted and sleep deprived, but I know it's only temporary and for a good reason!